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It stands out when you’re being competitive but not for the right reasons. You can become defensive and hard to work with. No one wants to be that gal, right?

Ok, let’s look at the positives too.

You’re competitive because you care. You want to do well and excel in your career so you’re prepared to go the extra mile to get noticed. You work your butt off and you’ll do what it takes to get results.

However, there is a difference between being the person who volunteers and jumps at opportunities, to being the person who squishes others to get to the top. I know which one I’d rather be.

Here’s how you can manage that burning competitiveness.

1. Be open. Don’t just stick to what you know. You’ll be surprised at what you can learn from others – whether that’s the big boss or the new graduate sitting next to you. Ideas can come from everywhere. If  you’re not receptive, you risk missing out.

2. Listen well. Let other people speak, your turn will come. Hear other people’s points of views and ideas and pay attention. Of course make sure you contribute but not to the detriment of those around you.

3. Seek advice. Turn to others when you need guidance. Sometimes getting someone else’s perspective on a situation can help give you that much-needed clarity. Don’t be afraid to ask.

4. Be gracious and humble. You might be right in a situation but that doesn’t mean you need to harp on about it. Make your point and move on. Try not to rub things in but instead be gracious about it. You’re better to be remembered for being the positive person rather than leaving a bitter taste in someone’s mouth.

5. Relationships are everything. It’s not what you know, it’s who you know. If you burn bridges now, it can come back to bite you right in the butt later. Always try and keep things on a positive note. It can help get you ahead in the long run.

6. Avoid playing the defensive. When we get defensive it stands out like a sore thumb. You’re sticking yourself up on a pedestal and honestly no one likes it. It can come across as anti-collaborative and a tad nasty. Do you want to be that person? Instead you’re better playing the game by earning respect.

7. Better & stronger together. You need to work with your colleagues not against them. You’re a team after all. You’re there to have each other’s backs, support each other and help collaborate together in order to flourish and grow. What’s good for a team mate, is good for you. You’ll achieve higher results when you work together.

8. Have a balance. I would never recommend you cut out your competitive streak all together. Hey, if it helps keep you motivated that can be a good thing. But like anything, you need a balance.

Do you find yourself getting collaborative at work? Instead of worrying yourself about it, try taking action.

Laura is the Founder & Editor of The Workher. She is an award winning Public Relations professional, who loves blogging about surviving and thriving in the workplace as a young woman.

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